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Essay My College First Days With Newborn

Essay about Personal Narrative: Having a Baby Changed My Life

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I remember the day she born. I was nervous for the simple fact that my life would never be the same. Soon no longer would I be known as just Ayanna, I would take on a new title. A title that I would share with so many woman, and after eight long hours of labor, I would now be known to the world as mommy. Growing up I came from a family of two sisters and a brother. My parents worked hard to be sure that there was always a roof over our head, food on the table, and clothes on our back. My worked for various companies until he was able to obtain his degree as an electrical technician. Today he maintains his own business known as McGhee Electric. My mother also took on various jobs to make ends meet. She began work as a cosmetologist and…show more content…

I could not help but think that I may forget and leave her in the car, or rush out the house and leave her home alone. I know that may sound crazy, but I always doing things that. I remember my mom telling me everyday that if my head was not already attached to my body, I would lose it. It's crazy because in health class we did the whole egg baby project, and needless to say I left my poor little defenseless baby egg on the school. Since that day, everyone would always tell me that a baby would not be for me. But regardless of how I felt, this baby was coming into this world whether I wanted it too or not. I have no choice but to grow up, accept responsibility and get prepared. So instead of relaxing and hanging out friends, I went to college and work and saved the money to prepare for the few months that I could not work. On March 30, as of three thirty in the morning, my life has officially changed. The labor pains had set in and it was time to have a baby. I had never felt a pain so excruciating in my life, and I thought that cramps were terrible, labor pains do not even compare. I climbed the stairs to my aunts room to let her know that it was time to go to the hospital. After watching her run around the room frantically she finally was able to rush me to the hospital. She zoomed through street lights rushing for fear that I may have the baby in the car and she would pass out. Had

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Five years ago, my son Norrin was diagnosed with autism. He was diagnosed the May I graduated with my bachelor’s degree. That September, I started graduate school.

This past May, I graduated with a Masters Degree in Fine Arts (creative writing).

This is the first time in nearly ten years that I’m not trying to juggle being a working mom and college student.

People keep asking me how it feels to be finally finished after spending the last 20 years (yes, 20) in and out of college. Honestly, it feels like something is missing. Which is crazy because I still work full time, have a 7-year-old with autism, and freelance at night – I have plenty to keep me occupied.

And when people ask me how I managed to “do it all.” I usually shrug it off.

Being a college student and mother is a completely different experience. Moms don’t have the luxury of living the life of a student. Being a working mom in college requires a lot of juggling. (And usually opting to wash the dishes instead of read the assigned chapters). It made me think about the last 20 years and how I survived being a working mom and college student. Take a look at my 6 tips to balancing work, parenthood, and school:

1. Be realistic

This was probably the hardest lesson for me. It was tough seeing so many of my classmates graduate and move on while I was left behind. I had to constantly remind myself of our differences. My classmates didn’t have the responsibilities I had. I couldn’t take 3 or 4 classes at a time. I had to take one class a semester. That’s what I knew worked for me.

2. Know your priorities and know they will change

Being a working mom, wife and student wasn’t easy. It was impossible to give 100% to each of my responsibilities all of the time, so I really had to prioritize on a daily basis. I did what I could, when I could. Some nights, I had to skip class to stay late at work or to be with my family. Some weekends, I had to spend a day away from my husband and son to get schoolwork done.

3. Be honest and build a relationship with professors

All of my professors knew I had a young son with autism and that I worked full time during the day. If I had to miss a class for any reason, I emailed them.  If I fell behind on readings  or assignments, I reached out and asked for an extension. And when I found a relationship that was especially understanding, I registered for their classes again.

4. Plan ahead

I always had a plan. I was always thinking about the next semester. As soon as one semester was over, I was emailing the professors for next semester, inquiring about the syllabus and reading list. If I could purchase books over the break and get a head start, I felt more in control.

5. Know when you need to take a break

It took me 15 years to get my Bachelor’s Degree and another five for my Masters. But I took many, many breaks in between semesters. The constant juggling would become physically and emotionally exhausting. I knew when I was feeling burned out and I knew when I needed time to regroup. After taking a semester off, I’d return feeling refreshed and more motivated then before.

6. Have a support system

I couldn’t have made it through my college years without my support system: my parents, husband, son, and  friends. There were so many times when I wanted to quit and give up – they encouraged me to keep going. And toward the end of the semester, when things got really hectic, I knew there were people (my mom and husband) who could help with laundry, cooking, cleaning, and taking care of Norrin. Yes, there were moments when I felt guilty and selfish. And during those moments, my support system reminded me that the time I spent away from Norrin was really all for him.

Earlier this month at a conference, wise Babble contributor, Jeanette Kaplun, said something during a panel discussion that resonated with me. She said, “I believe you can do it all. Just not all by yourself and not all at once.”  That’s the attitude a parent needs to have when they make the decision to return to school.

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